The Art of Dating - Secrets of the First Kiss

Okay, now that you have held her hand, it's time to move on to the next level. Time to turn up the heat, the moment has come for her to give you her most precious thing… her first kiss that is.

Now, some of you might argue that your new found girlfriend might already have given her first kiss to her kindergarten crush a decade ago or maybe the spoilt JC brat.

It doesn't matter really. Forget the past; her third and fourth kiss is equally precious. What matters most is that it is the first kiss between the both of you.

For such an important occasion, it is only fitting that everything goes perfectly. Believe it or not, girls dream about their first kiss with their prince charming as much as their perfect wedding.

You wouldn't want her to complain to the grandchildren 50 years down the road that their grandfather's breath stunk when you kissed her back then.

This guide will teach you how to make your first kiss a moment to remember.

Before we dwell into that though, we first need to look at the different types of kiss available. According to last count, there are at least 50 types of unique kiss all over the world.

These ranges from the more common “French Kiss” to the almost unheard of “Italian Mama Mia Kiss” to the “Mexican Kiss”. What? You think the Mexican only invented the wave?

When it comes to who invented the best kiss, the French comes up top. Why else would the “French Kiss” be so popular all over the world? Let's now take a detailed look at the “French Kiss” and 4 other types of kisses.

The French Kiss

Though the French claim that they invented the “French Kiss”, it was actually a German who gave birth to this special kiss. Verlag von Wilhelm Hertz born in a small town of Munich was the first to execute the kiss.

It was only when he moved to France and converted to French citizenship that his kiss became widely known.

The “French Kiss” got into the limelight in the 90s when it was used in a scene in the romance movie “Ghost” starring Demi Moore. The “French Kiss” typically involves the passionate locking of lips of both parties, with tongue teasing as part of the action.

A very sexy and intimate kiss, the “French Kiss” is a popular choice amongst lovers.

The record held for the longest French Kiss ever was clocked at 23 hours 35 minutes by a French Couple. Amazingly enough, this couple was well into their seventies. The even man boasted that he could go on longer if not for the fact he felt sleepy and needed some rest.

The Italian Mama Mia Kiss

Little is known about the Italian Kiss but reports claim that it originated from an Italian Pizza maker in the Town of Rome . The kiss is known to send waves so intense to the other party that he/she would shout out loud, “Mama Mia!” at the end of the kiss, hence the name.

The Mexican Kiss

The Kallang roar, the wave of fire… These are all variations to soccer's most popular Mexican wave, where the spectators rise in succession, swinging their arms wildly at the same time, creating an illusion of a wave in the stadium.

It is a little known fact but the Mexican also invented the Mexican kiss that is rather similar to their wave. How does it work though? Well, think of the Mexican wave but instead, the actions are on the lips. A rather unorthodox kiss?

The Flying Kiss

This kiss involves zero physical contact whatsoever. The giver of the kiss will kiss his or her own hand then send the imaginary kiss through the air to the partner.

The recipient upon receiving the kiss will either gobble it up greedily, place the kiss on his/her cheeks or place it in his/her heart.

The flying kiss is more common among friends and younger couples.

Pecks

This is light kissing, either on the lips, cheeks or forehead. There are hidden meanings though. If your partner kisses you on the lips, it means that he/she is still at the infancy stage of kissing but it won't be long before he/she executes the more advanced kisses.

A peck on the cheek suggest that the other party is not too sure yet. It could also mean a friendly gesture mind you. So don't get carried away.

A peck on the forehead can only mean that your cheeks are too oily and the forehead is the only place she can safely kiss without smearing the lipstick she has on. Time to wash your face dude!

Now that you have learnt a bit more about kisses, let's move on to the preparations leading up to the big day.

You wouldn't want you mouth to stink when you kiss her, so a week prior to the kiss you should,

1) Take 2 breath mints. 4 times per day. Before and after meals.

2) Use mouth wash after meals. Gargle at least 10 minutes for each usage.

3) Switch to vegetarian. Green makes your breath smell fresher. You can lose weight while on a salad diet too!

4) Practice oral hygiene but not too excessively. You know you are overdoing it when your basin is red every time you are done brushing.

5) If you are a smoker, stop smoking during the week. On second thought, you should quit smoking altogether. It's expensive and bad for health.

Okay, you have taken the necessary steps, now you feel you are ready to execute the perfect kiss. But how do you know she's ready? Drop hints to her that is.

While on dates, sing songs that have “Kiss” in them. Songs like “Sealed with a Kiss”, “Kiss from a rose” would do just fine.

When the big day finally arrives, it's time for the ultimate move, the actual kiss. Find a romantic setting.

You wouldn't want your first kiss to be at the bus stop just facing the rubbish dump.

Find a good place like the bench at the park that has a pond in front of it, with the backdrop of the setting sun…The mood and atmosphere of such a magical setting would make any girl want to kiss you, even your grandma!

Now gentleman, the secret for the actual kiss, the real deal, the moves you have been dying to know… the fiercely guarded secret… okay enough of suspense. Here it is…

Sit next to her and then comment on her hair. Say something like, “Hmm… what beautiful hair you have.” She most probably would smile and tell you what shampoo she uses. Don't be discouraged.

Next, draw attention to her eyes. “Hmm… what big eyes you have…” This time she would say thank you and might even add that it's better to see you with her big eyes.

Immediately after that comment, lean forward towards her face and say, “Hmm…what sexy lips you have.”

2 things may happen after you make that remark, depending on whether the girl got the hint. She might"

1) Jump up from the bench and say, “Geez, you are scaring the hell out of me! You sound exactly like one of my gay friends. What's wrong with you today?!”

2) She will move her lips towards yours and from there you will execute whichever kisses you are best at.

Of course we all hope that the outcome will be the 2nd scenario. Rest assured that if you have followed the steps in this guide, the results will be a successful one! Good luck!

Originally published in 2006