The Art of Dating - More secrets of approaching a girl

Hi! The hugely popular Art of Dating Series is back and this time, we are going to take a look at more ways to approaching a girl!

Can't get enough of the first part, "How do you approach a girl?" or those methods didn't work for you? Fret not, in this article we will reveal more secrets that will guarantee you success!

Before we begin, let us refresh on the three golden rules as mentioned in the first article, "Ways to approach a girl." Repeat after me, "A moment of embarrassment can bring you a lifetime of happiness. You can't die of embarrassment. Just do it." Cos these three rules will play a very important role in your future endeavors.

Now, let us take a look at the first method that is going to be discussed, that is ways to approach a salesgirl.

One day, you see this cute-looking girl in a shop, maybe she's selling clothes, books or even cosmetics. Your heart starts to beat faster, you feel a sudden urge to want to know her. You are so sure that SHE'S THE ONE! What to do? Your legs won't obey your mind's instructions as they start to walk away from the shop!

This is where the 3 golden rules will come in handy. Start to chant the 3 rules in your head. Cleanse your mind of all thoughts, face your fears. When you have calmed down and regain control of your legs, it's time for the second part of the plan.

Approaching a salesgirl is not as difficult as it sounds. All you need is plenty of guts and maybe some luck.

As mentioned in previous articles, you might want to get her to start noticing you first. Choose a weekday where there are fewer customers, go into the shop and browse around. Make sure she notices you. Best of all, ask her questions about the things she sells in the shops.

Ask about a book if she happens to work at a bookstore or ask her about the hottest fashion in town if she works in a department store. Have a small conversation with her, laugh a bit but remember don't overdo it. Leave a good impression and if you are rich enough, buy something from the shop before leaving. So far so good.

Return to the same shop 2 days later and pray hard that she's still there. If she is, good for you! If not, don't start to panic yet. Maybe she's on leave or something. Come back another day!

When you see her in the shop, go in and start to do the usual stuffs as taught earlier. Now here comes the important part, make eye contact with her and see how she reacts. If she smiles at you, congratulations! You are one step closer to approaching your goal!

However, if she gives you a cold stare, it's not the end of the world. Perhaps she's just feeling moody because her boss just ticked her off, or maybe you did not leave a lasting impression the first time round.

If that's the case, just redo the stuffs you did in the first part and this time, make sure she remembers you!

Even if she smiles at you, do not be too happy yet. She might be smiling because it's her job to do so, her boss might have instructed her to smile at all customers! Ha.

How do you confirm whether she still remembers you? Simple enough, just walk up to her and ask. If you are really that damn good and lucky, she will say, "Hi, it's you again!" Though these kinds of stuffs only happen in movies and Siu Kai stories. :o) Girls are known to be shy creatures. Most likely, she will just keep smiling and say nothing.

Now, here comes the difficult part. It's time for you to ask for her number. If at this moment you find yourself running out of things to day, start chanting the 3 golden rules again. Regain your composure, take deep breaths.

Start by asking, "Hi! Remember me?" If she replies "Who in the blue hell are you?" Then you can jolly well take a plastic bag, cover your head and get your ass out of the shop! Ha. But girls are not really that rude. Even if she does not recall who you are, she might just politely answer, "Sorry, you are?"

If that's the case, start to introduce yourself, since you have already gone so far. Don't beat around the bush like some sissy. Get straight to the point. Salesgirls are busy people you know? You wouldn't want her to get fired because of you right?

Say things like, "Hi, I'm so and so." I was wondering maybe I can have your number?" Here comes the tricky part. She might ask, " Why do you want my number?" To which you can reply, " I want to be friends with you." Or "I want to know when the latest Harry Potter books will arrive." :op

If she declines to give you her number, then you give her yours. Some girls are rather protective of their privacy and they would think twice about giving their number to strangers. So, you leave your number and say, "Hope that you can call me or waiting for your call." Ha.

After all this hard work, all you can do now is wait. Maybe a week. If there's still no reply from her, then it's time to try the girls in the other shops. Ha.

For our 2nd secret, we will examine this method formulated by Heartless. It's known as the "Call my hand phone" method. This secret is exclusive only to readers of Siu Kai™ World. :o)

You see a girl on the street whom you are interested to know. But you have no clue how to go about doing it. This is where the hand phone method comes in. Pass your hand phone to your friend and ask him to safeguard for you while you go do your stuff.

Walk up to the girl of your dreams and ask her politely whether you can borrow her hand phone because you lost yours and you want to find out whether anyone had picked it up. If she gives you a There-are-so-many-people-why-me? Look, smile and give her Cos-I-find-you-attractive look. Ha.

Most girls will gladly lend you their phones. Now it's the part which requires a bit of acting skills from you. Call your own number to which your friend will reply. Pretend to ask "the person who picked up your phone" where he is and so on. After you have the info, return the phone to the girl and thank her for the help.

If you are still wondering what's the point in doing all this, let me reveal the secret of this method. Remember when you call your hand phone from her mobile? Now it means that your phone will contain her number!

I know this is rather a cheapskate and cunning way to obtain a girl number but it's an effective one!

Once you "recover" your phone, SMS her and thank her again and maybe it will be the start of a beautiful relationship... Cheers. :o)

Originally published in 2006