How do you approach a girl?

Well, I guess this is one subject most guys have very little knowledge of. So, for the first time ever, I'm going to reveal the secrets to approaching a girl successfully. Cancel all your appointments cos after today, you are going to have lots of dates! Ha.

First of all, there are 3 possible scenarios in which you can approach a girl. The first one, which is normally the hardest is when the girl is a complete stranger. Someone whom you saw on the street while shopping. Some hot babe who just happened to walk past you while you were browsing for CDs. These are the "like at first sight " type of girls and they pose the most challenge to approach.

The second scenario is when you have at least seen the girl a couple of times already. She could be your schoolmate, or the cute librarian or even the chicken stall auntie's daughter. This is the most common scenario and has a higher chance to succeed, compared to the previous one. Familiarity plays an important role here, as we shall see later.

The final scenario is when you already know that girl. Maybe she is your classmate, your friend,your junior and so on. At first glance, this might look to be the easiest scenario out of the 3 but the truth is, it is not. There are some hidden factors to consider.

Now, before we continue further, you must always remember the following 3 quotes that are keys to successfully approaching a girl.

1) Just do it.

2) A moment of embarrassment can bring you a lifetime of happiness.

3) You can't die from embarassment.

Repeat those quotes 100 times per day. Say it when you are bathing, say it while you are enjoying your favorite TV show and also before you go to bed. Once you have repeated the quotes more than 1000 times, you are ready to continue. Read on.

Let's start with Scenario one. Imagine this, one hot lazy Saturday afternoon, you are hanging out with your friends again and while walking down the street, you suddenly caught sight of this "angel from heaven."

You start to panic. You want to get her number. You would like to befriend her, but your gut is not big enough... sadly, you can only watch as she slowly disappear into the crowd. Hmm, sounds familiar right? Bet this always happen to you. Ha.

So, how do you deal with this problem? The secret to success in this case is to overcome your fear of rejection. Most of us will unlikely go up to the girl and ask for her phone number. Why? Because we are afraid that we will be rejected and be embarrassed.

But, remember the 3 quotes I told you to memorize by heart? A moment of embarrassment can bring you a lifetime of happiness. What if the girl finds you okay and is interested to befriend you, and she eventually becomes your girlfriend? There is your lifetime of happiness man!

In the worse case scenario, she will ignore you and walk away. But that is very unlikely to happen. Cause no girls are heartless. She may just politely say no to you. You will be embarrassed for a while but hey you can't die from embarrassment! And remember, the more times you approach a complete stranger, the more confidence you will achieve.

The first time might be very tough but once u passed, you will find that approaching a girl will get easier. There will bound to be one time when you meet the girl of your dreams and succeed!

Sometimes, you will find that you want to approach the girl but you just do not know what to say. Don't worry! Just do it!

The most important thing is to take the first step by walking towards her. Once you have taken the first step, take the next few steps and eventually, you will be in front of your dream girl and you will start to talk. This is perhaps the most challenging scenario out of the 3 but the rewards are definitely well worth it!

Now, let's move on to the second scenario. A girl whom you already have seen a couple of times already. You might be secretly admiring her and she does not know you yet. But, not to worry cause we will make sure she recognize you at the end of the day.

This girl might be from the same school as you, but you are in different course or class. What to do? The most important thing in this case is to let her notice you. How do you do that? The answer is actually quite obvious. Let her SEE you. If she is your schoolmate, find out her timetable, her favorite hangout in the school. Appear in front of her and create an impression.

Wait for her at the bus stop if you can but DO NOT FOLLOW HER HOME! That would be stalking and is very wrong. The most important thing here is to let her remember you. Make eye contact, cause that is the only sure way of knowing whether she saw you. Do not overdo it though cos that would make you rather irritating. Maybe 2 times a day is enough.

Once you are sure that she can already recognize you even with a blindfold on, you can proceed to stage 2 of the plan; the actual approaching.

Choose one lucky day, wear your lucky t-shirt and underwear and go up to her and start a small talk. Maybe you can smile and say, "Hi! I kept seeing you recently." Then hopefully, things will go on smoothly. You can also try the survey method™. I used it and was successful. You can read more about this legendary method in Star. My dream girl.

However, if she does not smile back and claims that she does not recognize you, it is not the end of the world though. It only means that you are now back at Scenario 1. Now, all you have to do is to apply the secrets as taught in Scenario 1.

In the final scenario, you are to approach a girl whom you know for a while already. Perhaps she is your long-time friend or maybe your classmate. Mostly, at this point, all you want to do is to say the 3 golden words and tell her to be your girlfriend.

Well, saying those 3 words is hard enough already but you will also have to consider what effect the 3 words will have on your existing friendship.

What if she rejects you? Your friendship will never be the same again or worse, you might even lose a friend. Are you prepared for this? How to say the 3 golden words is a whole topic altogether and I shall not dwell much into it. But, remember the quote, "Just do it." Do not hesitate as that will only bring down your morale

And, one more thing, before you say those words, make sure that she is not yet attached. You wouldn't want to be at the end of a bad surprise. Perhaps, you can also drop her hints before you drop the bomb on her. Maybe, say nice things to her, buy her gifts or stuffs. See her reaction. If she starts to feel uneasy, maybe it's just not the right time.

Well, this is all I got to share from my past experiences. I hope that after reading this, you have more confidence to approach the girl of your dreams. The above methods are not fool proofed but they have a success rate of 99%. Just in case you fail, please do not come and find me. I'm just another victim after all. Ha. :o)

Originally published in 2006